Why Attitude’s The Ultimate Style Accessory

Ultimately, being stylish isn’t just about what you wear.

It’s about your attitude.

Like nearly every other woman on the planet, Kate Moss is one my fashion icons.

In my opinion, her iconic status is built less on her innately brilliant, creative talent for curating outfits (she was the trail blazer for effortlessly mixing vintage gems with designer pieces), and more so on her seemingly aloof, uber confident attitude. She’s the consummate of cool, rock ‘n roll chic.

Contrary to her recent collaborative collection with Topshop, I believe Kate Moss’ style is not replicable. You may try and copy her style (as thousands of gals have), but let me be the unfortunate bearer of bad tidings: Even wearing a duplicate outfit, you’re never going to look as cool as Kate Moss.

Trust me,  I tried. Often to disastrous results.

For the record, I don’t recommend copying someone’s style although, on the flipside, it can be a great learning process as to what works on you and what doesn’t.  It certainly was for me.

In my teens I went through a phase where I was a total copycat of her and fellow Brit Sienna Miller’s style. I had no idea who I was, was at war with the body I actually had, and this unawareness was totally reflective in my complete change of garb anytime a new “trend” emerged. Three- quarter black leggings? Arguably, Ms. Miller can pull them off.

Me? Not so much. I’m half Greek and have the “Greek bum,” and leggings are not flattering on me. Wearing leggings, three quarter or full length, I look like a cow. And feel like a whale.

Hot pants? Kate Moss can don them, topped off with a vintage man’s vest (sans shirt), rubber boots, and on oversized cross necklace, looking insanely hot.

Myself? Yep, you guessed it. NOPE. I, along with 99% of other gals, don’t look hot in hot pants!

Some dudes who saw me during the NYC summer of my “hot pant phase” may respectfully disagree. Clad in yellow and black striped hot pants, a tank top, and chunky Chloe heels (do I hear hooker?), I can recall bumping into a guy from my Transgender Theater Studies class on the street in the West Village one night. He asked me, ‘Why I didn’t dress like this for class?’ His reaction, case in point, was why.

I did not feel comfortable wearing those hot pants or leggings, regardless if one or two guys thought they did suit my, well, assets (pun intended). Going through that hellish leggings/hot pants phase, I felt painfully self- conscious and not too happy. I noticed that my discomfort in my garb made me more susceptible to getting irate or defensive. The ballsy ass woman I can otherwise channel was totally defunct the second I put on a pair of leggings. Still is. (Sidenote: Anyone who knows me well is privy to my #1 pet peeve: Wearing leggings as pants. Leggings are not pants!! But I digress. That’ll put the subject of a later blog post).

Not true for either Ms. Moss or Ms. Miller, who exude confidence when donning hot pants, leggings or over the knee suede boots (another trend most women cannot successfully pull off). You may not think they look too hot, but they clearly do and, ultimately, I think that’s what really matters. How you feel in a particular piece of clothing. There ain’t a cloak large enough to hide a woman who’s full of gumption and confidence.

Wearing something you feel great and glamorous in can be a total confidence boost although, ultimately, if you have no confidence or personality to begin with, clothes can only do so much for you which, frankly, ain’t a whole lot.

So, if you’re feeling so hot about yourself these days, before you invest in a stylist or impulsive shopping spree, I urge you investigate why. Overworked and undersexed? Not keeping your word lately? Have some financial messiness you need to sort out?Whatever it is, once you figure it out, don’t beat yourself up about it. Just bring your awareness to it and then change it! I believe you’re totally capable of it.

The world deserves to see you in all your glam glory. So go rock it.